Soma Needs A FriendEnjoying a creative season
Well we are heading into the middle of March already where does the time go? I took some time off at the beginning of the year but I have been in the midddle of a very create time for about two months. I was thrilled to be interview for an article in the women’s magazine DIVA. in the articele I spoke about being a spokesperson for many different subjects and campaigns.we have just celebrated another international women’s day and I had the pleasure of high lighting five women who inspire me in some way.
towards the end of last year I released my debut Poetry Collection Ripples.I still have a handful of copies left so if you would like to buy a copy please email me at :email@example.com
the latest announcement is…. I have released my first Children’s Short Story.Soma Needs A Friemd can be downloaded in Kindle from Amazon.
my work does not stop there, later this year I will be releasing my next Full Novel, I am really excited about this. I have submitted a number of applications to be part of various collaboration projects and to a number of festivals…updates to follow when I hear anything. Please keep an eye open for any campaigns I support and help me get behind them.
i will update you all in the next coup,e of months but in the meantime thank you for all the amazing support. If you know of any children who may like my children’s short story do pass the information on.and if you would like copies of Ripples, please email me. Thank you until my next blog take care be kind and be happy. Xx
RIPPLES My Debut Poetry Collection
On any other day this would of course be a vitally important occasion but i feel that with the current political unrest both here and in other countries when it comes to LGBT rights then i think its even more important to write about it.Being homophobic and sticking to those beliefs doesn’t serve anyone well the homaphic individual, the gay person, the child learning about relationships in school. What homophobic people lack in my view is a decent education on the subject, knowledge is power is a phrase that springs to mind here! There is such a huge strain on the health organisations across the globe in dealing with patience who present with illnesses directly coming from stress and depression because of homophobic abuse, or fear of coming out therefore living totally miserable lives.Not to mention support needed by families who have gone through the tragic loss of a loved one due to suicide just because they are gay.Most people in my opinion who have a homophobic personality need just as much support in re educating themselves to the truths behind all the myths they have been fed which leads them to be homophobic in the first place. Im reminded here of the day i first came out to my own mother the very first thing she said to me after telling her was “you know you will gets aids dont you” This was a response purely based on the badly delivered tv advertisements campaign she had recently seen talking about the Aids epedemic in the 80’s.Non of her beliefs around gay men or lesbians was actually based on facts she had discovered for herself.sadly her reaction hurt me badly and i was forced to go reluctantly back into the closet until many years later once i had moved out of the family home and was living independently .It was when living independantly i began to attend events and that’s when I finally accepted my sexuality for myself and realised how important it was for me to be visable as a lesbian.When i reflect on lots of famous people i grew up with who came out i had such a warm familier feeling towards them a kind of knowing sence. I had in my head that George Micheal was gay at the peak of Whams career. Over the next few years after living alone, and exploring the bigger picture i began to research gay history, the important figures in this and the political movements for gay rights which again made me realise how much suffering had happened and how far we had come in my own lifetime, this then gave me an even bigger sence of pride in being a lesbian. I was no longer in situations whereby my sexuality came into conversation and i was almost apologetic for telling people i was a lesbian to the point where i can recall a meeting at an arts event where i had to introduce myself and the work i do and i was very clear to point out i was a lesbian and i actually said thats who i am and if you dont like it…i dont care!. As a disabled person i have been on the receiving end of more bullying because of my disability than most most of you have had hot dinners so i have grown up knowing that i am very different to the average person on the street so actually the time it took me to accept for myself that i was gay wasnt all that long.I finally had `a terminology, a reason why i had certain thoughts and feelings growing up.I get exasperated by people who call being gay a life style choice like its the same as what hair colour you want, what clothes you wear and what you do for a living is all a choice, the colour of anyones skin, whether you are disabled at birth isn’t a life style choice, your born that way, lesbianism isn’t a fashion statement a way in with the in crowd its who i am. Women in general over the history of the world have had so many battles for equality we live still in such a male dominant society its as if women get forgotten about theres so much about our lives today which is still not justified, like equal pay and being stereotyped in the media. Yes i agree that being a lesbian is only one part of being a women but with everything we have faced and fought for to have an equal place in society and with dangerous and scary times ahead with political changes happening globally all our campaigning and sacrifices are at stake. Its a scary world we live in when the leader of the most influential nation on the planet publicly mocks a disabled person asking questions during an election campaign and who has absolutely no respect for women or people from the LGBT community . We need more widespread education we need more understanding and empathy and tolerance for all kinds of communities and we need more lesbian role models from all walks of life to get the message across that its ok to be a lesbian yes its a huge pat of our identity but its not the whole of a person and that we can do anything and be anything we want. I am proud of my difference as a disabled woman and i am proud to be a lesbian i am not angry with anyone who may be homophobic rather i feel sad they have not had an opportunity to re educate themselves against the untruths they have picked up in their lives so far. I am here to stay i am a women and i am a lesbian and proud of everything i am and what i stand for.
Hello and thank you for reading my latest blog. despite not posting much recently that doesn’t mean i have been taking things easy..infact ive been very busy behind the scenes. although taking a short break from finishing my third novel i have been taking some time out to do some professional development, a refresher so to speak. I have been working through steps to raise my profile. You may have noticed that the look of my website is different, this has been a big project and i can only exstend my sincere gratitude to everyone who has been helping me do this…you know who you are!
so what’s been happening? I am delighted to have been selected to participate in the first DIVA Literary Festival taking place in Birmingham in November.I will be in the company of Literary royalty with fellow authors/writers such as Kiki Archer Val McDermid VG Lee and hot properties of the moment Helen Oakleigh Kate Bennett and a whole host of other amazing female writers.The event is being hosted by non other than Heather Peace…post twin births.The whole weekend promises to be a wonderful occasion and i am deeply honoured to be selected to participate so early into my career. I have applied to perform in the poetry platform at this’d years Lfest and i am waiting to find out if my application has been successful.
i have been dipping my toe into wider ponds and finding groups to join on social media.I recently joined an arts group based in scotland and i was delighted to participate in my first poetry open mic performance.This was a special victory as it was happening at a venue quite far away so i was unable to attend in person, but we were able to work together to arrange for me to perform via skype, demonstrating that more disabled performers can take part in events like this as long as the organisers are happy to think outside the box to make it money accessible.
i have begun a few new lifestyle rituals which have proved to be so useful to my working levels. I am able to write something however small every day i have increased the amount of poems i am writing a week and feel like i have found a real niche with my poetry.
i am hoping to secure a few more dates for appearances in the coming weeks and months and will let you all know as soon as i hear anything.
i feel like i have a renewed sence of energy to take things further so expect lots of news and activity online. With so many external influences affecting our sence of well being and so many political changes and unrest i leave you with this small thought, change is scary, but sometimes its so worth taking a leap of faith and go with it..to quote a line from a sweet kids moves used by the family of an adorable family who’s son is vey sick…keep swimming , the future is only just beginning.
I passionately believe in giving everyone from the Disability LGBT community a voice.eryone else I aim to give an honest eductaion and fun insight into our lives.
I began to write approximately four years ago after realising the gap in the market for disabled LGBT artists. It occurred to me that there was a lack of artists with high profiles due to no other role models. To me we need to raise the profile and visibility of disabled LGBT people and encourage more artists to promote their talents whilst educating the rest of society. I have no formal writing qualifications just over forty years life experience as a disabled woman. I grew up feeling like I was not being heard or encouraged to develop and celebrate any ability or talents .i express my inner most feelings through poetry and use my life experiences into my authors work.
To date I have two novels published and I write poems on a daily basis, I hope soon to release my first poetry anthology book.
I passionately believe in giving everyone from the Disability LGBT community a voice and to everyone else an honest education and fun insight into our lives!
Shining a light on a seemingly all-forgotten minority.
Over the course of this summer, myself – along with millions of other people around the world – were glued to the TV watching the Olympics, and later the Paralympics from Rio.
Not since London 2012 have I been addicted to this level.
Across social media, every channel was strewn with images and articles, counting and naming how many openly LGBT athletes were competing – and images of LGBT athletes proposing publicly to their partners.
This is obviously a huge step forward from days gone by.
When I think back to the first Olympics I can remember… 1984 Los Angeles… there was no mention of any LGBT athletes.
In fact, more emphasis was placed on how many athletes of colour were competing. Oh how times have changed. Or have they?
Let’s scratch the surface.
To a degree, I take pleasure in celebrating with my peers while I remember those campaigners who have fought so hard for so long for equal rights, and some paying the ultimate price.
However, from my many hours sat watching events unfold in the Paralympics I cannot recall a single commentator mention, nor did I see any social media coverage, stating which paraathletes were LGBT.
When I had this realisation three years ago that there was a lack of disabled LGBT artists in the public eye I became stuck on the same question…why???
It is wonderful to see how time has caught up with the achievements of people with disabilities, and the inspiring sporting achievements they make.
Nonetheless, despite the days of the glamour page three model culture being over, we are hook, line and sinker obsessed with who’s wearing what label, who’s had plastic surgery, lost/gained weight and pushing the picture perfect images of LGBT people on the front of our magazines and websites.
Like all communities, the LGBT community is obsessed with the “perfect” representation of people which breeds a certain trend and perception.
Bearing all this in mind, I can’t help but come to the conclusion that disabled people are just not viewed as “sexy”, “cool, or “trendy”.
Could this be the reason more of us don’t promote themselves and pursue the same level of public recognition and fame?
Granted, the current trend in popular culture seems to focus on ordinary people finding fame via the reality TV route, but when it comes down to it, they cannot offer much more than their looks and the life partners they are seen with from week to week.
It’s a sad fact that when I reflect back to the LGBT people I looked up to and admired growing up, non of these had any form of disability.
But WE do exist – and I am blessed that I have been embraced into a community where I can share my chosen profession as an equal openly showing my disability onstage.
In an ideal world, I would love to be involved with events which feature more LGBT disabled singers/band members, films with lead characters with disabilities, comedians, writers, all walks of the arts life.
Yes, I have more than once had obstacles to overcome from an access point of view, but I am here doing something I love but it feels like I’m in the minority and it’s a very lonely place to be.
Having come from a thriving disability arts culture, I’m very familiar and comfortable about celebrating difference from a disability point of view.
For some disabled artists, they believe the LGBT community is the only place their talents can be seen without prejudice and be fully valued.
I ask why can’t more of these artists be encouraged to take the leap of faith, and push themselves into the mainstream, to be open about sexuality and be as supported, as I know they will be, by the non-disabled world?
I’ve had to do my own research and discover which of these disabled athletes are a part of the LGBT community, and quite frankly, there are a lot of attractive disabled LGBT athletes out there.
Yes, I am delighted that more disabled characters are written into soap operas but I’m keeping my fingers crossed that there is not the usual tilt towards portraying the tragic and brave mentality towards their storylines.
I also hope there will be storylines where we see a disabled character involved in a relationship – and why not a gay one???
I long for the day when I can sit down in front of my TV or at the cinema and watch a film with a disabled character, but that is not the only thing about them!
Maybe play a leading lady, leading man… or hero…who knows…
All it takes is just a few writers and directors to pluck up the courage and put us on the TV screen.
It just takes a few of us as artists to pluck up the courage and go to an audition, send in a demo tape or turn up to an open mic night.
Be aware, I and my peers don’t wish to have a place there just to make up the numbers for ratings and statistics, we want to chance to prove that we are gay, sexy and disabled and ready to take on the arts!
I am delighted to be selected to participate in the first DIVA Literary Festival
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